That is, only if you're doing what everyone else wants to do.

And post it several weeks in advance...no weekdays...can't be on the same day as someone else's event, much less the same time...nothing past 7pm...

Maybe don't use the Fireteam Builder.

Best thing you can do is send friend requests to the most active DBOers, then asking(or begging) for their help the minute you're ready. They'll be MUCH more amenable in the now.

There are plenty of examples in my case, but last night was a really good shining inspiration.

A couple of days ago, I had posted an Iron Banner FTB, and (yep) only two people signed up. They both arrived thankfully, but couldn't stay long. I look at my friends list and see four people on IB. I sent them each a message, and less than 10 minutes later...

(well, I would show you a link or picture, but apparently according to B.net, I've never played a single game of Iron Banner in my entire three year career of Destiny's history, despite being Rank 5. *Morpheus414 facepalms*)

There you go. A full fireteam of 6--and we all had a good time, helped each other out and grew closer as a community!

My point is, that box is just the internet version of a string around the finger. Just get on whenever you feel like, and ask anyone of your friends online! At least there, you'll get a response, even if it's a no.

1. Play at the same time every week and show your online status.

2. Have real-life friends (preferably since childhood) or family members who play Destiny the same night and time that you do every week.

3. Be accepting. Use the fireteam builder without expectation. If people don't sign up it may or may not have anything to do with you. (See #5.) You also may have to play with the guy who treats chat as his night at the Improv, or Mr. Non-sequitur, or Joe Whinybutt. People are weird, but they’re playing with YOU, and you might not realize how irritating you are to them.

4. Be competent. One hopes this is less important, but it is without a doubt a factor if you are considered a liability to achieve the task at hand.

5. Avoid making passive-aggressive posts on the internet about how people on the internet don’t sign up for your events. It gives the impression that those people are onto something.

6. Be supportive and positive. Take an interest in people. They’re not just names filling your roster. Don’t begin every sentence with “I.” Pro tip: this works wonders in real life, too.

7. Follow step six and it inevitably leads to step seven, which is make real-life friends (or the equivalent) who want to play with you. They may forgive your failure to follow the other steps.

Disclaimer: I don’t call these Kermit’s steps because it’s what I do. Far from it, but I don’t need to tell that to most of you. (This post itself comes dangerously close to violating step five.) I’d like to have a more regular group on the Xbox, for instance, but it’s no one’s fault but mine if I don’t. I wrote these as reminders for me.